Speechcraft
Unlearned and following examples of others. Some may want to practise specific changes independently before counselling session or may prefer independent development entirely. All people have speech patterns and responsive behaviours. The examples in Islam offer a study that can be used to avoid harming one another with our speech unintentionally and to preserve our own dignity.
Counselling and practise
Internal speech and external speech have their own impact and challenges. What is said and done is reflection of ourselves but it is not the whole picture. In Islam we have the preserved examples and the many challenges and connections they had. Now this conduct can be used in our lifetimes for dignity, better and stronger bonds.
Our counselling services and journal entry review services are available. Use our services for personal and targeted guidance on communication. Personal reflection is encouraged daily as knowledge intertwines with experience.
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Avoid direct insult or praise with comparative language
Comparative language. The one who stands in prayer is not like the one who does not. The one who strives to do good is not like the one who prevents good.
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seek out intentions
Seek out the intentions of the person that may have done or said something to harm you. For what reason did you not let me know that this had happened? For what reason did you not respond? For what reason did you not know of these changes or events?
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do not detail injury
Do not repeat the details of an injury that you may have caused someone. It is good to explain your reasoning when you are in a position to and when you are capable of doing this in a good way. I know you felt a certain way when I walked off without saying anything.
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mark your connections
Mark your connections to people in your speech. Although, not all connections can be a thing of comfort, family ties are something that we do not choose and even if they are painful they remain. Listen to your friend. My nephew, is there anything I can do to help you?
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speak for your sake
Speak for your sake. When in a conversation that begins to show signs of clashing interests, speak from the perspective of your interests and not as though you are defending yourself. I am accountable of how I spend my time.